Hazia’s Reflections

I met 2 old friends at noon. One is still single like me. She asked whether the other knew anyone that she could recomment, hehe… It turned out that she did. Her 37 year old Malay colleague was still single. He was the youngest child and had to take care of his mother, that was why he didn’t get married earlier.

Also happened to be the youngest child, my friend said she didn’t have any problem with that. She also has her own commitments, her father is in a wheelchair from stroke. Her mother is old.

She only wanted to know one thing. ‘Sembahyang penuh tak?’ (Does he pray 5 times a day?) LOL! In fact, he does. So, it was set. Our friend took her picture with her mobile phone camera and would show the guy.

I guess at the end of the day, it all boils down to that. I would look at 2 main things though. Firstly, education and secondly, religion.

I’m glad that my parents give us a lot of liberty, unlike some of their friends’ children. As long as our choice of life partners are well educated and not of poor characters, they are fine with it.

Only just now, my mother called me with a shocking news. They took a flight back to Kedah at noon and they had just returned from the neighbours’ youngest son’s wedding.

A lovely couple and long time family friends, they have 4 sons. My brothers and I grew up with them. With their parents being Dato’ and Datin, both their eldest son and second son married Dato’s daughters. Both the girls have class and style.

The third son, however, had a different taste altogether. Among the 4, he was the closest to me. Since he personally invited me to his wedding 3 years ago, I actually went back to my hometown to attend. The rest just invited through my parents, so I didn’t bother. LOL!

He married a FELDA girl from a poor family. At first, his parents didn’t approve of their relationship. Then, their son was diagnosed with a serious kidney problem.

It was so sudden and within months, he was already on hemodialysis 3 times a week. Because he was suffering from a rare condition where his antibody attacked his kidney, a transplant might not be the solution. His parents did explore going to China, etc.

So, his mother casually mentioned that she thought he should get married. Otherwise, who was going to take care of him. That was 3 years ago.

We always thought that the neighbour didn’t favour the girl due to her background i.e. not impressive like their 2 older daughters in law. Shockingly, a woman who was chatting with my mother at the kenduri just now unveiled something else.

She said the couple couldn’t have children due to the man’s sickness. She then carelessly mentioned that fortunately, the wife already had a daughter prior to marrying the third son. He was fond of the child.

However, when realising that my mother wasn’t aware, she quickly stopped talking and refused to elaborate. So, my mother wasn’t sure whether the wife was a divorcee or it was something else. She asked if I knew. The third son and I haven’t kept in touch for quite sometime. Unfortunately, I’d have to say that I had no idea. Hmm… need to meet up soon.

P/s : Gambar hiasan aja:)